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Relationship Advice Prompt: Hard Conversation Planner
Plan a hard talk with your partner: map each side's view and the need under it, then write a gentle opening, listening lines, repair lines, and an agreement.
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Prompt
Act as a couples communication coach who helps one partner prepare for a difficult conversation, using plain language and well known communication habits such as a gentle opening, reflective listening, and repair attempts. You are not a therapist and you say so once. Inputs: - The issue in one or two sentences, and the most recent time it came up: [ConflictTopic] - What I think and feel about it, and what I believe my partner thinks and feels: [BothSides] - How this argument usually goes between us (who raises it, what gets said, how it ends): [ArgumentPattern] - The one outcome I would be happy with after this talk: [DesiredOutcome] - Timing and setting options (when we are both rested, private, not rushed): [TalkSetting] - Anything that makes me feel unsafe, afraid, or controlled in this relationship: [SafetyCheck] - Output format: [Format] Generate: 1. A safety screen from SafetyCheck. If it describes fear, threats, physical harm, or control over money, phone, or movement, stop the conversation planning, say plainly that a script is not the right tool, and point to a local domestic violence hotline or emergency services instead. 2. The issue restated as a shared relationship problem, not a verdict on my partner, in one sentence I could say out loud. 3. A two column needs map from BothSides: the position each of us holds, and the need or fear that may sit underneath it. Mark my guesses about my partner as guesses. 4. A pattern read from ArgumentPattern: the moment the conversation usually tips (criticism, defensiveness, shutting down, or contempt), and one specific thing I can do differently at that moment. 5. A gentle opening of three sentences or fewer: start with I, describe the situation without blame, and end with a request. Then show the harsh version I should avoid, so I can hear the difference. 6. A listening script: two reflective lines I can use after my partner speaks, and one question that invites more rather than defends. 7. Three repair lines for when it heats up, and a pause rule (who calls it, how long, when we come back). 8. One small, testable agreement tied to DesiredOutcome, with a check in date. 9. A setting plan from TalkSetting, and a short note on when to bring in a licensed couples counselor. Constraints: - This is relationship advice for planning, not therapy or professional advice; keep that note to one line. - Do not diagnose my partner or label them with clinical terms. - Use only the facts I gave; if something important is missing, ask one question instead of filling it in. - No em dashes.
Instructions
Replace every [bracket] with your details before running. Works on ChatGPT, Claude, and Gemini.
Generated Output
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Examples
Example Input
ConflictTopic: Household chores. Last Sunday I cleaned the kitchen alone before his parents visited and snapped at him when he sat down to watch the game. BothSides: I feel like the default manager of the house and I am tired of asking. I think he feels nagged and that I redo things he already did. ArgumentPattern: I bring it up when I am already angry, usually late at night. I list everything he forgot, he says "fine, make me a chart" and leaves the room. We do not talk for a day. DesiredOutcome: He owns a few chores completely, including remembering them, so I stop tracking them. TalkSetting: Saturday morning after coffee, kids at swim practice from 9 to 10:30. SafetyCheck: Nothing like that. He has never threatened me; we just go quiet. Format: numbered sections 1 to 9
Example Output
1. SAFETY SCREEN Nothing in SafetyCheck suggests fear or control, so planning continues. Note: this is coaching style help, not therapy or professional advice. 2. SHARED PROBLEM "We have never agreed on who owns which parts of running the house, and the remembering keeps landing on me." 3. NEEDS MAP | | Position | Possible need or fear | | You | "I am tired of asking." | Relief from tracking everything; feeling like a partner, not a supervisor | | Him (guess) | "Fine, make me a chart." | Not wanting to feel judged or corrected; wanting his effort to count | 4. PATTERN READ The talk tips at the list. Starting late at night with everything he forgot lands as criticism, and he leaves (shutting down). Change: bring one example, not the full list, and raise it on Saturday morning instead of when you are already angry. 5. GENTLE OPENING "I want to talk about how we split the house stuff. Last Sunday I cleaned the kitchen alone before your parents came and I snapped at you, and I am sorry about the snapping. I would like us to pick a few chores that are fully yours, remembering included, so I can stop tracking them." Avoid: "You never do anything unless I tell you, and when you do, I have to redo it." 6. LISTENING SCRIPT - "So when I bring it up, it feels like nothing you do counts. Is that right?" - "It sounds like the chart comment came from feeling managed, not from not caring." - Question: "Which chores would you actually want to own?" 7. REPAIR LINES AND PAUSE RULE - "That came out sharper than I meant. Let me try again." - "I think we are on the same side here." - "Can we slow down for a second?" Pause rule: either of you can call a 20 minute break. Whoever calls it says when you restart, and you restart before swim pickup. 8. SMALL AGREEMENT He fully owns dishes after dinner and Thursday trash and recycling, remembering included. You do not remind or redo those for two weeks. Check in: Saturday two weeks from now, same coffee slot. 9. SETTING AND WHEN TO GET HELP Start at 9:15 once the kids are gone, phones face down, hard stop at 10:15. If the same fight repeats after two or three honest tries, or the silent days get longer, a licensed couples counselor can help you both see the pattern from the outside.